So glad I’ve been able to find a few.
You know who you are. 😉
I suppose you could view being human as both a blessing and curse. We’re here on this earth experiencing all the challenges and wonder and uncertainties alongside all the other living creatures, yet we’re different. We were given this extraordinary ability to ask “Why?” We search for meaning in the chaos. It’s an ability that has the potential to both inspire and destroy us. It’s a heavy load to lift–to question one’s existence and search for greater meaning. And it’s an immense responsibility to do something about it, to follow a path of purpose once we recognize it stretching out in front of us.
I think we spend a lot of time not trusting ourselves, second-guessing our choices, worrying over the what-if’s instead of appreciating the journey. There’s a lot to learn from our bad decisions, from the detours we’re forced to take in pursuit of our goals. And there are times when what we thought was the “right” path doesn’t even scratch the surface of our potential.
I think a lot of people get tripped up thinking there is only value in setting and achieving lofty, long-term goals. We end up measuring our value as humans and the quality of our lives by our ability to compete with others–to do bigger, better things than someone else. The side effect of this is that we miss out on the wonderful experiences and the small victories right in front of us. We start living for the future, focusing our time and energy on things that may never happen, while the very real and fleeting present moment passes us by. We start measuring ourselves and our self-worth by someone else’s standards.
It’s hard to live in the now because, frankly, the now isn’t always a great place to be. Maybe you’re stuck in an abusive relationship. Maybe you’re struggling to pay your bills. Maybe you’re battling an illness. Maybe you just lost someone you love. Maybe you’re stuck in a job you hate with a tyrant of a boss who takes credit when things go right, shifts blame when things go wrong, and thinks repeatedly telling rape jokes is funny.
Yeah, the present can fucking suck sometimes.
But it’s all we’ve really got, isn’t it? Life gives no guarantees. Life doesn’t even promise the next moment, so how do we keep deluding ourselves that it’s going to promise us next week, next year, or even the next item on our endless To-Do lists?
Maybe some people feel like that’s a pretty grim worldview. I don’t. I think it’s the most powerful move a person can make–to learn how to live in the present moment, to learn how to navigate and appreciate moments as they come instead of ignoring them to obsess over a future that doesn’t even really exist (and may never come).
So, it’s our burden and our blessing to be here now and to make the very best of it. And yes, it can be hard, but it can be beautiful too. And what I’ve discovered is that the good moments, the really magical moments, far outnumber the bad ones. We live in a world and on a planet built for growth. The default design is for us to continuously evolve, to move and grow along a positive trajectory in such a way that even the challenges and setbacks we face serve to propel us forward.
All we have to do is hold on and learn to appreciate the ride.
It’s a little scary when you think about how little time we actually have in this life. And there’s no real guarantee on how much time you’re actually going to get.
We gotta invest wisely…make the most of every moment we’re granted here on this earth.
And I guess I’m just getting to a point in my life where I don’t believe in wasting time on certain things…things like holding grudges, things like gossip, things like swimming in self-pity. I don’t believe in tearing other people down to make myself look better. I don’t believe in standing on the sideline waiting for things to change.
I’d much rather spend the short time I have helping people, building people up, spending quiet afternoons with my family, eating delicious food, listening to good music, watching great shows, taking long walks and feeling the sunlight on my skin, playing a impromptu game of catch, and having great conversations with my friends. I’d rather spend my time being honest, being 100% myself, and surrounding myself with people who invest their time the same way.
Life’s just too short for the bullshit, folks. So however you choose to spend your time, I hope you choose wisely.
I know it sounds weird, but I honestly try to walk in every new day and every new situation with no expectations. I don’t spend a whole lot of time mulling over the way I want things to go, or worrying about million things that could go wrong (I give a quick thought to the possible pitfalls and possible solutions, and then I quickly move on).
I think I’m just at a point in my life where I’m not interested in wasting my time on things I can’t control. I just want to experience things as they happen, respond to what’s in front of me rather than fretting over things that may never come.
Gotta say, it’s a helluva lot less stressful that way.